I was at a restaurant with some ladies. A conversation of ethics ensued. The subject of rape came up and somehow I said a thing I usually don’t share. I didn’t say it directly but it was picked up. And then outrage. They were pissed at my view. I replied that I think it is the worse thing in this world the truth of what I said and I wish it weren’t true. Yet very easily, very, very, easily I can quantify it so much so you would not disagree. You would not want to agree due to your emotion, but you logically cannot disagree – even the emotion that I cause with explaining it will tell you to agree. Yet they at this point had so much emotion they could not hear any attempt to quantify it – they were closed to it. So before I tell you what it is I will first give the parable, I will first quantify it and then state it. On second thought I will infer it so that you cannot skip to the end.



There is this woman Jean, she meets a guy, they go on a date. The guy rapes her!

She chooses not to make it known. Not to press charges or to tell anyone.

One day she is with her friend Tina and her friend tells her how she met a new guy and is going on a date with him. She shows her the picture of the guy!

Jean knows the guy – it’s the guy that raped her. Jean is flooded with emotions – emotions of what happened to her and emotions of what could happen to her friend. Quickly she is overwhelmed. Do I tell my friend WARNING HER!? But then she would be revealing what she swore to never reveal to anyone – that she had been raped (victimized). And then there is the thought that Tina might not believe her and think that she is lying (slandering) so that Jean can have the guy for herself or just out of spite to hurt Tina.

In that moment she cries out to God – what do I do? And this quiet gentle thought comes into her conscience “tell Tina you need her help, you have been assaulted and need her to come with you to the police, when you file the report let her learn who the guy is when you say it in front of the police!”

Is this her thought? Where did that thought come from? “But I don’t want to be exposed!!” She demands. But she doesn’t want her friend to go through what she went through either! Again she hears the voice “trust me.”

She begins to sob uncontrollably, Tina wants to know what is wrong. Jean tells her she has been assaulted and can you take me to the police. Tina is happy to help and drives her there. She files the report they ask her if she has a picture of the guy and she says – my friend Tina does!

Jean now realizes had she sacrificed her emotions of shame from the beginning everyone would have ALREADY  been warned. It would be easier to prove and validate. She would avoid such difficult situations and false accusations such as “your lying so that you can have him.” Or “your lying just for spite to destroy my joy and happiness” (or whatever else I have heard so many).

She realizes had she said nothing and allowed Tina to go on that date -uninformed and was raped – she would have been an accomplice to rape!

She prays and begs that these types of ethics would be taught to children at a young age. If taught it would not be such shame to be a rape victim.



So yes when I say it as a summary it upsets people. But when I give the analogy – well I will wait to see your comments.

I think rape is AS bad as homicide. I am outraged at how little a sentence is received for it. In the news recently a guy getting ONLY six months! Fine put a big screen TV in his cell where he has to watch trauma ER video of men and women where were raped – I dono.



We read in 1 Corinthians 5 a list of examples of sins we are not to associate with. One of those on the list is reviling.


But what is reviling? When I asked pastors they told me that it means cussing/cursing. Another told me it means to blaspheme God. And that was the extent of their explanation.

Well, those are true but there is much more to the meaning of the word. A quick look at the Greek manuscript and where else the word is used is quite revealing.

John 9:28 Then they reviled him and said, “You are His disciple, but we are Moses’ disciples.


The Greek word is loidoros. The above is the New King James version. If we look at how other versions have translated the word it is telling:

cursed him                               NLT

ridiculed him                          HCSB

turned on him in fury         ISV

hurled insults                         NIV

heaped insults                       BSB

railed at him                           CJB

jumped all over him           MSG

Are you getting the idea?


Now if we then look at the Koine Greek synonyms we see mock, reproached, ridiculed, slander, gossip,  etc.

One of the more significant synonyms is the word blasphemy. As the pastors thought that it was direct blasphemy – no it is indirect blasphemy that counts. What do I mean? Well in John 9:28 they reviled the blind man that was healed insulting him as if he were foolish or inferior to them. But in doing so they blasphemed God as they insulted him.

When we read 1 Peter 4:14  (NKJ)  If you are reproached for the name of Christ, blessed are you, for the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you. On their part He is blasphemed, but on your part He is glorified.


So as the healed blind man was being reproached they were blaspheming God. This is serious for in Israel at the time this was an offense that warrants execution. (It was for blasphemy that they put Jesus to death.)


So when you insult your fellow man, your brother, OR the Devil you simultaneously blaspheme God. We read in the book of Jude: 9 Yet Michael the archangel, in contending with the devil, when he disputed about the body of Moses, dared not bring against him a reviling accusation, but said, “The Lord rebuke you!”

Now the most astonishing exhortation to me from this verse is that the English word here revile is not the same as 1 Cor. 5 loidoros in the Greek but is, in fact, the Greek word blasphemias it’s synonym.

So when we gossip, slander, insult, mock or speak evil in any way against ANYONE! (even the devil) We are blaspheming God!

So when it says that Mike did not revile the devil it is saying he didn’t say anything like “You’re an idiot!” Or “How blind can you be?” Or “Dad approves of me more than you!”, Etc.
This is not unlike when Merriam spoke evil of Moses. She commented that since Moses has a foreign wife that either she or Aaron should have been the leader or chosen one. In her simple thinking, yes she spoke down on Moses but does not realize she was insulting God. Who chose Moses? It was God. So she does not realize that she basically said: “God made a bad choice because Moses has a foreign wife, he could have done better in having chosen me or Aaron, God is foolish.”

Who chose Moses? It was God.

So she does not realize that she basically said: “God made a bad choice because Moses has a foreign wife, he could have done better in having chosen me or Aaron, God is foolish.”

In that event, God gave Merriam leprosy. This allows us to see physically what reviling does to our souls (that which God sees but we do not see). God did not give her leprosy because he was offended. Though he said that her own father would have spit in her face. No, but so that she and others could see how she is hurting her own soul. In like manner to the NT says to rebuke an elder publicly so that all may fear – he rebuked her publicly.

Reviling is an epidemic in the body of Christ. They have no idea what it is nor are they interested in knowing. I heard one sermon where a pastor said “well, we are not the purpose driven church you know” and the audience roars in laughter. This was a way to say they were superior to Rick Warren’s church. (I neither endorse either church)

This is serious for a reviler will not inherit the kingdom of God. Now some will say “so you are saying we can lose our salvation?”. Will you say this in order to not obey?

When we revile we are killing our souls! When we do not exhort our brother who may have reviled in our presence we are their accomplice. Their blood will be required at our hands.

Remember to count the cost. That for every idle word a man will be judged Matthew 12:36, That the disciples then asked, “who then can be saved”. It is not for sin that God will judge us. It is for our excuses and denial that he MUST judge us!




With one word I can answer this: experience!

They have not seen these three nor have they seen God. But they have seen results with these three and so believe, not because of the story and the belief of the parents (or fibbing) but because they see the presents, the money, the basket – experience!

Kids believe parents at their word, yet being intelligent enough even at three years old they have doubts, but when they wake up Christmas day and see presents under the tree and hear mom and dad say “wow look Santa came!” They may have been skeptical about the tooth fairy but when they wake up and see money and the tooth gone and mom reinforces the optional truth with “see I told you they would buy your tooth”. The kid is THEN convinced (or rather deceived!).

In my home, we do NOT believe in these three, but we do believe in God. And so I have begged and pleaded with God to give my kids experience with him so that they could believe in Him.
We read in the first chapter of Acts the phrase “by many infallible proofs”!

One day while in the sixth grade my son (Jason) needed money for a field trip. He was crying because we had literally zero money. I said son please share these things with me, it was late at night just before he was going to bed and the trip was in the morning. He was feeling emotion worrying about the next day and what would he tell his teacher. So together we sat in Gods presence, told him what is our trouble and asked for guidance, then waited and listened. I was told to tell my son in the morning he will have his money and that I was to go for a night walk where God would give me the five euro.

I wandered around town for a few hours around 1 am I ran into a guy I know who works at a nightclub. We chatted and he asked me what I was doing out so late. I told him my son needs five euro and I am looking for it. He immediately offered me five euro – in the moment I asked Father if I should accept and he said yes. Though I walked away wondering – was this God’s provision? I remembered to take every thought captive to the authority of Christ, so I asked: “Father is that really from you or because I shared?” He reminded me that he told me to share with him and that I did not ask men for money but he put it on the man’s heart to give. I accepted this answer yet honestly not fully satisfied.

When I  got home I was eager to see his joy when he would see the five euro (like waking up and the tooth is gone and now there is money). He was not excited – he was sad. I asked why and he said that he needed seven euro, not just five. I did not know this, he had told me about the five but not the two. So I said, “If God provided the five he will provide the other two, perhaps you will see it on the ground, or in the bus, or at the restaurant!”

At this time he would walk alone to school. But as a word of wisdom, I was to walk with him today. As we walked and approached the road for his school and should turn I saw a vision to go a block further and to walk around and circle back to the school. As I obeyed this my son said: “dad you’re going the wrong way.” I said I know but God has shown me to take us this way.

As we walked I noticed in the gutter a two euro coin and said to my son gently and calmly “look”. His eyes lit up as I expected them to earlier that morning and as he bent down he found what I had not seen another one euro coin. He was so shocked, so surprised, so full of joy and amazement. He told me right away how he would tell his friends.

I too was amazed and NOW fully satisfied that even the earlier five euro was from Him.
“Faith come from hearing, and hearing the voice of God.” Thus I pray often that my kids will experience him so that they might believe he exists and that they might slowly learn how they can trust him with all.

We have many other such experiences I could share. Most the time it is like this one at what seems to us the very last possible moment, not unlike when God parted the Red Sea.

may you be inspired and go and do likewise.

UPDATE April 4, 2017

We may think we are robbing our kids of fantasy and fun by not doing these games. But what we end up doing is robbing them of trust. I have interviewed many people – and between the ages of 8-14 one day they realized this was a lie and they all tell me they thought “Can I really trust my parents?”. This makes them then think “Is God made up too?”. So to counter this I ask for experience for my kids that God is real.

When my one son (Jojo) was four for Christmas he wanted a remote control car. I had not money to buy this – I asked him to ask God for one. So we prayed together for one. A week later the Red Cross invited him to a Christmas party. They gave him a gift, he opened it. And it was a remote control car.

My son when he was five wanted a tablet. Something I could not afford. I told him he could ask God. 14 months later when he opened a box from Grandma that had a tablet in it his response was “My tablet”. He knew God would answer one day and the day he got it he was not surprised God answered he was just joyful that this was the day. (I have his response on video )

Recently I was walking with my soon to be 14yr old son (Jason). He told me his friends ask him “How do you know God is real” please know we are in Greece where all kids are Orthodox Christians all have been baptized Christian, most of them go to church at Easter and Christmas. They see my son’s faith, they see his courage, they see he is not afraid of men’s opinions – such as when a classmate is being a bully he is not mindful of others wrongly calling him a snitch (He does not tattle tale he asks for help). So I got to share with him how to answer that question. I told him he can tell them of his experiences of God (such as the money for the field trip), he can tell them that this is why he cannot be easily intimidated or manipulated due to spending time with God each day (Jason’s own Character is proof of God – it is proof he has been with God). That he can just lay his hand on their shoulder and say “God please show my friend you are real. and I thank you that you will”

You should not divorce Except for sexual immorality…

Ok so stubbornness is as the sin of idolatry. God makes it clear that when someone is idolatrous that that one is adulterous. For example He would say that Israel had played the harlot when she had engaged in idolatry. Thus adultery=harlotry i.e. sexual immorality.

So if your spouse is rude to someone and you become aware of it – they have not exuded the fruit of the spirit but rather the work of the flesh – and thus are in need of their feet to be washed and food and drink for strength for their soul is naked and hungry.

That is they need exhortation and they need grace from God to change.

If they committed actual adultery should we not seek their repentance and their reconciliation? Just as God sought Israel to repent and reconcile with him? So to for rudeness if they refuse to make amends by telling the person they were rude to have done that, and if it was in the presence of others to confess to them as well (if possible) – if they refuse they are being stubborn/adulterous/sexually immoral (the mystery of Christ and his bride).*

As Samuel said to Saul stubbornness is as the sin of idolatry and as God has revealed idolatry is sexual immorality.

Is this still not accepted by you? Well lust we are told is adultery is it not? So too hatred we are told is murder are we not? Thus stubbornness is sexual immorality.

So then you get one or two witnesses since they think it petty and refuse to apologize (if the roles were reversed would they not appreciate an apology?). IF they refuse to change their mind (repent) they have self on the throne this is the abomination of desolation we are to flee – when you see this. Love them but do not keep company with them. Cook for them but do not eat with them.

If they continue in this you are then free to divorce them, for how do you know if you will save them if you remain?

Per matt 18 an unrepentant believer has become a false believer.

So if it be rudeness or actual adultery Jesus was teaching that you should divorce only for unrepentance. We are told to emulate God – to be perfect as he is – God divorced Israel not for her harlotry but because she did not repent of her harlotry.

The only reason to divorce is unrepentance for any issue no matter how small or big – after every effort to bring them to repentance has been tried. For if we are unfaithful in the few we will be unfaithful in the many in fact already are. If we do not treat them as unbelievers we are their accomplice and we have allowed leaven to remain in the body.

We would be enablers Judge as accomplices just as Eli the High priest who rebuked his sons but did not restrain his sons was judged along with his sons.

I know a lady who’s husband not only was having an affair but moved in with his girlfriend. So she filled divorce. This did not change him. But his kids who were 16, and 18 told him that mom has offered you mercy and if you refuse we will not keep company with you – FOR THIS HE REPENTED!!! And are since happy and still married today. They live just a few kilometers from us.

MATT 18 is not done. It is considered loving and gracious to not do it. But Matt 18 is actually a commentary on how to love one another. It is hatred and evil to not do it!!! Matt 18 is simply how to do an intervention which is expanded on in Luke 17. Jesus when he said to love your neighbor as yourself was quoting Leviticus 19:17, 18 and these two passages are a commentary on loving one another. As in 1 Cor. 5 & 6 and so on like Romans 16 to avoid those who cause division, Thess., etc. Where it says not to eat with one who is disorderly so that he will be ashamed. And James 5. Etc.

I was once scolded that doing this (obeying Christ) would shame them. I said ya – as scripture says so that they can come to repentance – it literally says “so they will be ashamed”. So many thing that staying with them and forbearing might save them. That is like giving a drug addict all he needs daily for his habit hopping he will come to his senses to change. You are an enabler and are not helping them but hurting them. Give the addict food, give them a bed, but drug money ONLY if it is a means of weaning.

They need to identify and admit to themselves that they have a problem this opens their ears to then hear from God what the cause of this problem is. This admittance is an offering, a sacrifice, it is how we offer our bodies daily as a living sacrifice.


*They may soften it and apologize in prayer only or to you only. Not enough.

They may excuse it saying it is minor yet Jesus said for EVERY idle word we shall be judged.

Live and let live

So this morning my HP was reminding me about what this little phrase means.

It simply means to treat others the way you want to be treated. Funny how EVERY religion has this saying in one way or another but don’t seem to do it.

If I was being stupid I would want someone to tell me giving me a chance to change.

Reciprocally – now that’s the hard part – not only giving a chance but telling them?

A friend who I inadvertently sponsor has trouble at work. She would never speak up for herself having low self esteem. She would reason that “ya I do mess up often and so I deserve to be treated that way”. I suggested she was making excuses, for the way she is treating herself and that she is being their accomplice in being abusive to herself. (now of course it was said delicately) So she took my advice and simply told her co-worker she could do better. It was emotionally the hardest thing she had ever done, but it was sooo freeing.

A few days later she went to a vendor – the guy there is a bit slimy and would always ask her out, even running his fingers on her skin. It made her want to die inside but she was paralyzed before to ever say anything. Yet this time she found a phrase in her head and a strength – not real strong – it came out kidding and laughing “could you please not touch me?” It just came out – where did I get such strength? Then immediately “ya but you weren’t that strong you laughed as you said it” She shared it with me. I said hey baby steps, but look you have been freed from a bondage due to you treating your co-worker the way you want to be treated. You would want someone to tell you if you were being rude and so you told her she was being rude thus giving her a chance to change, and in so doing you were able to build up your self esteem and ask a sleazy guy to stop which in turn gives him a chance to change. (Months later, she even stands up to her boss – this is why she drank her father was this way. One day she asked me why she keep running into this. I said well HP tells me that you asked to overcome this. If I ask for the ability to run 5k I will need to try and run 5k until I can run 5k. So if I ask to overcome rude abusive people I will need to keep running into and dealing with rude abusive people until I get it. That is what a good coach would do right?)

Live and let live, not just doing to others AS you want them, but not doing to others AS they are too you! When insulted, don’t insult in return. Now that is hard, it seems a natural instinct to do so. My HP tells me that a habit can be soo ingrained that it seems as an instinct but that this is not just revelation this is good news for if we practice a new good habit it too will one day be ingrained as an instinct. I have seen it – when someone does me a foul I immediately, naturally, instinctively say “do you know that you are…..” It is no longer an instinct to judge but to inquire before I judge.

He goes on to tell me that violence is a drug that is hard to quit. This is our typical go to drug to cope with unfairness, rude people, either we way it to them or cowardly we say it under our breath or in our hearts. It poisons our hearts.

I really like “fake it till you make it”. Soo often I don’t understand what he is telling me, but I can choose to try it out. To just do it and see what happens. I guess it is like swimming I didn’t understand how to do it but I tried it until I could do it and once I could do it I understood it. So why is it still so often I expect to understand before I do?

So I tried it. In the moment if I reviled I tried to catch myself – I even asked my HP to point it out to me if I did it. I would apologize to my HP and then say an overriding phrase such as “God bless….”. My HP asked me to go a further step. To ask my loved ones to tell me when they hear me do it. Now at the first few it was irritating to be told but since I asked to be told what could I do?

With this I have learned to be aloof to my environment. You see when needing to confront someone or being confronted I would get more than butterflies my whole body would tremble and shake in fear internally I would be almost paralyzed. Now I don’t care what they will say or how they will respond.

My neighbor is a Pentecostal Pastor, we asked him not to park his motorcycle on the sidewalk so that the stroller and the baby can fit. He responded by telling my wife to go around his bike into the street. WOW! Avoid the religious! We asked him several times. So that I did not hold a grudge to get it off my chest I made an anonymous video about it. No last name, it does not show the plates to his bike, or his address. He saw the video and flipped out! I was surprised to see that it did not phase me internally, he went on an on about how he is going to call the police that they are investigating me, that he hasn’t gone yet out of respect for my wife’s grandfather. So did he go or didn’t he? And if he respects my wife’s grandfather he wouldn’t have told his great grand baby to go around his bike onto the street. (But I can be compassionate I can recognize how hard change was for me, that he is an addict with his own drugs, I cannot change him, but I can change in that I am no longer enabling his delusion)

I find religion to be/become the worst drug there is, making one so vile and putrid on the inside. But to truly live and let live one might end up alone. So can we really do it? Can I go the distance and live this way?

I mean if you are a sheep among wolves is it any surprise that you might end up alone?

I like the zombie analogy. We are waresheep and sobriety and serenity are the cure. We can offer them the cure but if we are not willing to end up alone we will return to being zombies ourselves.

But beware some of them are transwolfites. Wolves trapped in a sheep’s body! 😉 For such there is no cure!

Religious ethics

Many years ago when I was about 20 years old I had a job. At the time I was attending Calvary Chapel of Vancouver WA. I had become very devoted to wanting to know and experience God. My job was installing rain gutters. I was the helper on the crew the lowest guy and so had essentially two bosses. They were not the owners but the business was a partnership of two guys and one of the guys father. So I had a lot of boss’s.

There was a lot of foul language. The church taught me nothing on how to deal with this.

One day we were working on a Saturday. No owners just the crew. We went way out of town to install gutters on a house. While I was finishing up my tasks the guys informed me we are doing the house next door now as well.

After we finished and drove away one of the guys handed me 75 dollars and said this is your share. It confused me completely. I was making only 7 dollars an hour and so an eight our day was only 56 dollars a day before tax’s.

What I later figured out was that while doing the job we were scheduled to do the neighbor came over and asked that we do his house and paid cash. They over charged a little and didn’t report the extra job to the owners at all and kept all the cash having split it between us. They took like 150 each and gave me 75.

So I went to an elder at the church and asked him what to do. He told me that whenever something like that happens to him he simply takes all the money and puts it in the offering box at the church.

So I did just that.

The church had needed some gutters and so I began asking the guys if we could put some on the church. It was only about a value of 100 dollars in the little amount of gutters needed.

One day I over heard the pastor suggesting that I was dishonest since I had put gutters on the church and didn’t pay or charge the church. I had offered to pay the guys but they refused. (why didn’t the pastor just ask me?)

Today I know better. Today these people at that church I attended the elder is now the pastor at CC Longview and the other the CC Woodland They still give the same advice today and do not know any better.

WHY? They are not willing to pay the price to learn better. I have since been taught by God what is the right thing to do. If I could go back in time and give my young self advice or if someone came to me what would I say?

“Son this is where bearing your light before men to glorify God happens. This is when men will persecute you and say all kinds of evil against you. You need to count the cost of following God. For you see he desires justice and not sacrifice (prov. 21:2). You need to give them mercy, you need to be bold and tell them that you think they cheated the owners, that you cannot have any part in that. That THEY need to tell the owners or you will. This they most likely will see as a threat and most likely if you try and tell the owners they will succeed in making you look like the bad guy. They may even physically harm you. But know this no man who sought to please the Lord by doing the right thing will be forsaken – God will give you a new job and if not he will feed you miraculously”

You see the elder told me to give the criminal proceeds as a sacrifice – he did not tell me to be the salt of the earth by helping them do the right thing. He neglected justice and mercy. Faith is also neglected in that God will take care of you if persecuted and if the job is lost for having done the right thing. These men (Pastors) are religious and yet worldly. They do not realize that if you do not exhort your coworker you slowly and on a subtle and slippery slope become like them. Saying nothing not only makes you their accomplice but it altars your character.

He having advised me to give the money to God is no different than people in the middle ages buying the right to sin. It is Cain’s offering of vegetables.

My son is 12. I asked him if his friends say cuss words. He said sometimes. I asked him if he asks them not too. He said he tries but they interrupt him. I suggested it was hard to do but better to lose the friend than to become like them. Exhortation is your antidote to their mistake. You see on another job I had I was partnered up with a man who cussed a lot. It was torture for me. But I never exhorted him because I was not taught too. After several months I began to cuss too. Today when someone does I ask them not too and thus I do not learn their ways and corrupt my own soul (Prov. 22:25)

God tells us how to love one another and how to love even our enemies. But religianity knows nothing of it. If they are doing something wrong tell them so that you do not bear a grudge and so that you are not their accomplice.

I told my son to ask them not too and if they mock him to ignore it and walk away. If they ask where are you going say unless you agree to not cuss I am going home. To do that each and every time. But most of all ask God in the moment what to do or say. For Jesus promised us that the Holy Spirit will guide us into all truth and tell us what to say IN the moment. If need be we can talk with their parents and if they call you a snich to tell them no I am helping you and trying to keep you as a friend.

I now understand that the guys gave me 75 dollars on the gutter job to keep me quite to intentionally make me an accomplice – to get me to “sin in”. And later they installed the gutters on the church free of charge as an additional bribe and to deal with their own conscience of conviction.

Belief alone is not enough – faith without works is dead.

They – the CC’s – think that grace and mercy means no accountability. They are mistaken being luke warm, blind, naked, and miserable yet deluded to think all is well like an ostrich with it head in the sand. If they read this they will be offended – if it was not true they would NOT be offended. Their offense is their sign and wonder it stands in witness against them.


Feeding the poor and clothing them

We read in James: “15 If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, 16and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit?”

Which is to fulfill the law of love: “8 If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself,” you do well;..”

So what about spiritual food? And spiritual clothing?

In the Gospel, we read that Jesus said his food was to do the will of the Father.

We read in Revelation that those in heaven; their clothing were the acts of justice that they did.

We are told that loving your brother means to tell him of his fault. But many are too afraid. It seems to be a natural instinct of fear to not tell them. Yet not telling them leads to gossip which leads to feelings of superiority and then slander. Not wanting to tell them causes rash judgments in our hearts that closes our minds to new input making our hearts hard.

So when we see a brother no knowing the will of God or not doing it we need to tell them. But all too often we justify NOT telling them is love. That they need to figure it out on their own or that it is between them and God. But perhaps they cannot see or hear or are lame. Thus us telling them is a miracle of healing them to see, to hear and to walk. It is the greater miracle than actually giving a blind man sight but giving spiritual insight.

With kids we have no problem telling them. Why do we tell them? So that they will have good character. We would never say a kid needs to figure it out on his own! So when we do not tell our brother scripture explains that we are indeed hating our brother.

Now telling them will almost never be well received initially they go through the fazes of loss. Denial, anger, hatred, negotiation and not many then find acceptance.

I saw a sister of mine go to board a plane. She forgot to pre-board online and they penalized her with fees. She was angry and reviled them – saying terrible cuss words and cursing them with names. I gave her a look of shock. Then a few moments later as she complained again I quietly said to her “be angry and do not what?” she got angry and exclaimed, “I do not care!!”. If it were my child I would have asked the child to say sorry to me and to ask God for forgiveness. I admit I was worried about her hating me for this truth and did not say more. I loved her with some exhortation but I did not love her as my own self in that I did not rebuke her when she was defensive.

It takes a community with gentle rebuke to bring someone to their senses (a cloud of witnesses). But sadly nobody else is willing to help. They would rather “PRAY” for them than love them with the truth.

Christians fail to obey and thus they do not love Christ and in their disobedience they obey the lusts of their flesh hating their brother. And scripture says that he who hates his brother does not know God.

As my friend left Greece I did mail her a letter suggesting she seek to bless and not curse. That simply asking those around her even her kids to point out to her when she does this – that at first their reminder will seem to sting but she will remember she asked them to do it –  in three short weeks, she will have changed dramatically.

Christians fail to mature due to an unwillingness to love one another which is the royal law.

Quoting the Old Testament it says that we are to tell our brother/neighbor so that you do not share in their sin and so that you do not hold a grudge. In doing this you will have loved your brother as yourself. Christians of all kinds know nothing of this! It is veiled to them as they are in need of eye salve to cleanse their eyes. When I attempt to share it some will agree but when I then ask them to be a witness they have too many excuses.

One said it is going Rambo on them. Really? If my kid refused to apologize and so I put him in his room until he changed his mind you would not call that going Rambo. So in seeking to not obey Jesus and be a witness she reviled me (vilified saying I am an extremist).

Another man said his father just died and he is not available. Well his father had passed two months prior he has kids and I suppose if his son came to him and said my brother hit me he would not reply to his kids “grandpa just passed and I am busy dealing with that”

I could go on and on for the excuses. Funny they claim they are not willing to judge for righteousness sake and so in order to get out of it the DO judge for unrighteousness sake. That is they come up with all sorts of far reaching judgments for why I asked them to do – what Jesus said to do!!!